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Should Students Choose The Books They Read?

Motoko Rich raised this question in her NY Times article this week. My short answer to this short question is, no.  No, I don’t think so.  Students should not choose the books they read for class.  Teachers should choose those books.

But, as my loyal readers know, I’m not a big fan of superlatives, so please note, my answer was not, “No, not ever, students should never choose.

There are so many different types of students.  There are so many different types of teachers.  There are so many different types of books.

It seems to me that it’s pretty clear that education is not a one-size fits all proposition.  Some districts do it better than others, and some teachers do it extraordinarily well.  But often these schools they have more resources—they can pull kids out for extra help or enrichment; they have aides in the classroom; they have highly involved parents.  These factors make a difference for the teachers and the kids.

Regardless of school district, I think age is a big factor.  In discussing whether or not students should choose the books they read for class, I’m referring to older kids, to middle schoolers and high schoolers.  Elementary school kids should read whatever floats their boat.  The goal at that point isn’t to analyze the symbolism of red flowers or white hats, but to instill a love of reading. 

Also, I understand that some kids don’t have a love of reading by the time they enter middle or high school.  I realize that some schools are struggling just to get kids to pick up a book and that throwing Moby Dick at these kids is rather pointless.  So I will concede that, in those cases, allowing students to begin by choosing their own books is a good idea, with strong teacher guidance later.

But generally speaking, as kids get older, they need more.  When we read and discuss great books, classic books, with others, we learn more.  My friends had insights I didn’t and vice versa.  When we read and discussed assigned books, I learned from them and they learned from me.  Furthermore, students who have read and discussed these books have a shared history, a common understanding, a mutual point of reference for discussing the topics broached in classic literature.

The books that challenge and change us aren’t usually the books we read on the beach in the summer.  And the books that challenge and change our kids aren’t usually the ones they read for entertainment.  I totally support reading for entertainment.  It beats the heck out of another hour of TV.  But our kids aren’t in school to be entertained.  They’re in school to learn. 

Here are two books I read simply because they were assigned:

Lord of the Flies.  If you haven’t read this classic since high school, it’s worth another read.  As you find yourself on the beach with Golding’s boys, you think about the biases we hold today; you’ll think about our tendencies as humans and why order and laws are good for us and why, despite knowing better, people still hurt each other every single day.  If your kids are old enough, let them read it and talk about these ideas with them, too.

The Good Earth (Pearl S. Buck).  Despite my disdain for superlatives, I will go out a limb here and say that I as a student I never would’ve picked up a book about a Chinese farmer unless my teacher said, “Read this.”  But because she did, I read it, and in one fell swoop I understood why some books are called classic.  This one stood the test of time and I’ve read it at least 5 times since, most recently a year or so ago.  It never ceases to amaze me.  This book makes you think, think, think.

Both of these books raise questions and issues that resonate with readers today, even though they were originally published in 1954 and 1931.  Even if they don’t touch everyone in the same way they touch me—and they won’t—it’s still worth exploring the issues their authors raise.

Not every classic will affect and challenge us, or our kids.  I remember laboring through The Grapes of Wrath in the 11th grade and forcing myself to flip page after dusty, dreary page.  Ugghh.  It was such a chore.  But other kids may have felt differently.  Maybe Grapes of Wrath spoke to them the way The Good Earth spoke to me.  So if Grapes of Wrath wasn’t a favorite then, isn’t it my top ten now and never really grabbed my attention, so why do I still think it’s a good idea for my kids to read it in school?

School—like life—isn’t always about doing what you like.  Sometimes it’s about doing what’s good for you.  Reading the Grapes of Wrath introduced me to John Steinbeck.  If the only thing I got from picking it up was that it lead to my reading East of Eden years later, which is one of my all time favorites, then that’s worth every minute I spent analyzing its dry symbolism.

Reading classic books asks our children to explore issues beyond their schools, neighborhoods, and families.  It asks them to think, to really think, about poverty and prosperity, gratefulness and ungratefulness, age and class and humanity.  It begs them to consider equality and possibility; hope and hopelessness; it challenges every paradigm they have.

Don’t we want this for our kids?  I know I do.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on this one.

Celebrating 13: How do you throw a party for a 13 year old boy?

When my son was born I couldn’t imagine this day. I couldn’t see past the diapers and onesies and sudden mounds of laundry created by a very small 7 pound 8 ounce baby. I couldn’t imagine having an hour to myself much less conjure the day this boy would be making plans with his friends that didn’t involve the word playdate.

But the day has come.

How to celebrate?

This was a real quandary for me. If you’ve read here for any length of time, you know I’m a fan of the down-home birthday party. There have been pirate parties and jungle parties and gazillion of other parties involving cake, ice cream, balloons, lots of children, and some variation of the “hot potato” game.

But 13. You know, it’s just not that cool to play hot potato anymore. So what are the options?

  • Two of his friends had pool parties at the homes of family friends of theirs that have pools. Not only do we not have a pool of our own, we don’t have close friends with a pool of their own, so…pool party: out.
  • Sleepover? Yuck. I was so NOT up for that.
  • Boys at the cottage? Tubing, mini-golf, beach, s’mores? Fun, yes, but how many boys would you want to take tubing? And then the sleepover is inevitable. Double yuck.

So here’s what we decided: we’d go for the element of surprise. We just threw an end-of-the-school-year party, where I had 22 kids at my house, so I WAS NOT UP FOR A HUGE PARTY. As such, we didn’t invite all of his friends, just a few we knew were in town that weekend. We settled on a date a full two weeks before his birthday (before he pinned me down with his frequent, “Mom, what are we going to do for my birthday this year?”) Included: cake, ice cream, enough soda and Doritos to scare any parent, an outdoor movie projected in our backyard, and a request for your parents to pick you up at 11:00. See, that’s the bonus of being 13–your friends can go home really late and it’s totally fine. Hooray!

This also marks the first time I didn’t make his cake myself, because how on earth could I explain making a birthday cake so far in advance of his birthday? Instead, we bought this lovely gem at Costco which may have been enough cake to feed our entire town. It was quite tasty, I must admit. And wow, placing the order and picking it up: so easy!

On his actual birthday, we took him to Chicago to see the Harry Potter Exhibit at the Museum of Science and Industry and, if I say so myself, that was a great idea all the way around. Chicago: awesome! Harry Potter exhibit: very cool! Legoland Discovery Center: fine, but mini-lego of Chicago skyline: awesome!


And since I haven’t found my camera, my very very very pretty and very very very nice friend Sharee’ lent me hers for the weekend. Because I’m so responsible, you know. I’d never lose it.

Starting to Get the Shakes: I Can’t Find My Camera!

Remember that post I wrote about having a place for my things? Well, I do. I have a cabinet where I keep my camera, the videocamera, both cases, and any randomly related objects. Here’s the problem: my camera’s not in there.

It’s been two and a half weeks now without a camera, and I’ll be darned if I’m buying another one yet. I know it’s here. Or there. It’s somewhere, I just can’t put my hands on it.

It all started the weekend we found out our beautiful Labrador, our faithful pet for 13 ½ years, had liver cancer.

I don’t really want to talk about that now, other than to say that I had the camera on his last day, because I have the pictures to prove it.

And I had my camera here in my house, because I loaded them onto iPhoto. The following week is a bit of a blur – back and forth between our house and our cottage, breaking the news to the kids, trying to deal with our own emotions.

The camera was the last thing on my mind.

Except now it’s missing and it’s on my mind all of the time. I can’t get a picture of anything, and it’s driving me nuts.

Do I buy a cheap one, at Costco, for the interim? How long do I wait until I concede defeat?

I already had to borrow one last weekend, to take pictures of my son on his 13th birthday.

What’s around the corner? Football, soccer, and the first day of school for starters.

Oh, where could it be?! I need that camera!