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The Most Important Tip for Newlyweds

I’m about to do something I loathe: I’m going to offer you a little unsolicited advice. I loathe this mostly because I loathe receiving it. If I want your opinion, I’ll ask. Otherwise, I find it rather insulting to be offered advice nilly willy, as if I haven’t the brains to think something through for myself.

For this topic, however, experience counts. No matter how smart you are, how savvy, how very much in love with your husband-to-be, you can’t hold a candle to experience. So here it is, the one thing I think every newly married couple absolutely ought to do:

Nope, it’s not here.

It’s over here, in my post at Wedded Bliss.

I Haven’t Cooked For Days

Yes, it’s true.  It all started last week, when my kids headed back east with their grandparents for a little R&R.  Or a candy-laden, amusement-park–bowling alley–movie watching-kind of week.  Whatever.  My husband and I headed to the nearby ski hill that night because we enjoy skiing in July.  Nope, that’s not really why.  I’m not that crazy, people!  No, we headed north sans ski gear because in a moment of sheer genius, someone in charge of our local symphony decided years ago that people would pay good money to sit outside on the ski hill in the summer and listen to them play.  And, man, were they on the money.  We made the first trip ten years ago, and have only missed a couple of times.  We’ve even roped our friends into paying good money, too.

In our picnic basket this year:
  • a bottle of Palazzo della torre wine (which rocked, by the way)
  • prosciutto, kaseri cheese, and arugula sandwiches on rosemary ciabatta (made by me)
  • a motherload of grapes
  • english toffee cookies (not made by me)
  • red licorice, cheese & crackers, and pretzel nuggets for the masses
The evening ended with a beautiful display of fireworks set off at the top of the ski hill.  It was fan-tab-u-lous.
Since then, we’ve had nachos for dinner while watching the incredibly stupid, entirely inappropriate (kid-free here, folks!), yet also hilarious movie, Role Model; had lunch at two of our favorite outdoor haunts; enjoyed a 10PM meal at the bestest burger bar ever; and generally, not put a single thought into whether we need groceries.  It’s been quite lovely, albeit a bit pricey.  But hey, with just two of us, we can eat out twice as often, right?
Reality approaches.  Planned meals.  PB&J.  Ewww, Mom, do I have to eat this?
I sure do miss those boys.

My Favorite Books: Ten Books That Make Me Think

The books speak to me.  As I look up from the table at the library, where I’m spending most of my day today, I glance up at this shelf of teen books, and I hear them.  They tell myriad stories:  some sad, some adventurous, some scary, and some very, very funny.  We read them, and they challenge us.  If we’re lucky, sometimes they even change us.
One of the reasons I enjoy belonging to a book club, is that it forces me to read books I may not choose otherwise.  I’ve never been a big fan of biographies, for example, but a few years ago we read John Adams, by David McCullough.  It surprised me—I liked it!—and it remains one of my favorite books.  David MuCullough brought their world to life for me in a way that no history class ever did.  As a mother and wife, I empathized with Abigail Adams and realized that she was made of much tougher stuff than I am.  I’m still amazed by her story, as much as his.  
But it’s not just serious stories that capture me.  I’ve loved reading for as long as I can remember.  As a child, I spent hours in libraries – in every town we called home, and in my grandmother’s town, too, which we visited several times a year. In those early days, I enjoyed a good mystery and I was especially fond of Nancy Drew.  I admired her courage and her wisdom.  I liked her friends, Bess and George; I thought having a boyfriend like Ned Nickerson was pretty cool, too.  But most of all, I loved their adventures.  They took me along with them, to discover the Secret of the Old Clock and solve the Password to Larkspur Lane.  When I read these books, I wasn’t a 10-year old girl reading a story.  The words of Carolyn Keene transported me, as I solved the mysteries right along with Nancy, Bess, and George.  Those stories changed me, as books would continue to right up to today, as I questioned and pondered and discovered new ideas.  Books open worlds we may never contemplate without them.  Don’t you agree?
If you’re in the mood for a good read—although not necessarily an uplifting one—here are a few others I count among my favorites.  This list is by no means exhaustive—there are many, many books I’ve enjoyed over the years.  However, these remain among my top picks because no matter how many times I read them, they always make me think.   They challenge me, and they change me.  I hope you’ll discover their magic, too.
·      Lord of the Flies, William Golding
·      The Great Gatsby, F. Scott Fitzgerald
·      Gift from the Sea, Anne Morrow Lindbergh
·      The Good Earth, Pearl S. Buck
·      A Fine Balance, Rohinton Mistry
·      The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls
·      Three Cups of Tea, Greg Mortenson
·      The Life of Pi, Yann Martel
·      Huckleberry Finn, Mark Twain
·      The Red Tent, Anita Diamant
Are any of these among your favorites?  Are there books you love that I didn’t include?  Please leave me a comment and let me know.  I’m always up for a new read.
Footnote:
On one particular visit to my aforementioned grandmother’s library, I noticed a few Nancy Drew books I’d already read, that had different covers from the ones I owned.  As a frequent re-reader, I checked them out and was surprised to find that it wasn’t only the cover that was different.  The words were different, too!  The books in the Nancy Drew series have been updated throughout the years, and I’d stumbled onto a few earlier versions.  When I offered to replace the older books with new ones, the librarian agreed.  I couldn’t believe my luck.  I still have those books, and even though I haven’t read them in years, I won’t be parting with them anytime soon.